When Violence Begins At Home!

“He belts her”, “She is scared to voice her opinion because he gets violent with her”, “He is very short tempered especially with his wife”……I was shocked….totally numb…… actually speechless during this conversation. Seriously, I had no idea how to react about it. It’s not that I was listening about domestic violence for the first time but because it was about someone I know personally as a socially well behaved so called gentleman & his wife.
This discussion between some of my friends which I was a part of, made me to think about this issue.
Why does this happen? What makes a person so violent? Is this the dirty game of power? Is it to prove that I’m stronger than you? Where does the love vanishes for which they were once united?
I know there can’t be one common answer to my questions. Each relationship has its own different story.
But there are few sensible approach that can bring a difference. It may be not the cure but a step towards it.

SPEAK OUT: No, silence is not going to help at all. Voice up your thoughts either to the assailant or to someone near & dear to you.
Communication is a powerful tool that you own. Use it before it’s late.

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DON’T COMPROMISE: We often hear advices such as – Just compromise for sometime, have kids & gradually everything will be sorted. Sadly, it isn’t even close to a solution. You’re in return including knowingly another new life into the mess! What example are you going to set in front of your child if the problems, fights persists? Before even you think of starting a family, think again…

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KNOW YOUR RIGHTS: Every country has its own law against such anti social activity. No matter where you are, try to take sometime & educate yourself about it. Taking legal help sounds a big step, but it’s worth it. After all you have all the rights to save your life & spend the rest wisely without any scars.

BE A MAN:

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A relationship isn’t complete without mutual friendship, where two people decide to spend the rest of their lives connected with the bridge of love & compassion. If this is exactly what’s missing in that relationship, inspite of several attempts to save it, then what’s the use of being in it?

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33 comments

  1. That’s really sad when these things happen na!! Now if only women were not scared to voice it out !!

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    1. Exactly! 😦 I felt the same Freda! This has do change atleast Now!

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      1. More than freedom from this kind of thing, women are afraid of what society will say , and continue to go through the torture, I really wish they could see past beyond this and the harm they are doing to themselves 😦

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      2. Imagine its just once we all live, even in that if we have to live in fear.. Nothing worst than that!

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  2. BeginnerBeaute · · Reply

    Ugh this frustrates me! What are wrong with these men?!!

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    1. Severely frustrating!!

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  3. Posts like these are filled with positivity.. Yes.. Women need to know their rights& men too..
    When there is violence irrespective of the gender.. We need to shout it out…
    Women & men.. Need to get over the taboo and stigmas associated with domestic violence..
    The worst part in these cases?? The victim feels ashamed.. 😔😔 How contrary isn’t it??
    Good job in dedicating a post to such an issue shweta!!

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    1. Ty Noorain. Also, I have spoken about only women here because that’s what I heard of. Though I’m aware that domestic violence hasn’t spared any gender! That’s really sad:(

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      1. Yup!! I understood that Hun.. You were referring to the context and giving your thoughts on it!! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
        And… We live in a so called ” MODERN WORLD”.. 😒😦😔

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      2. That’s the irony 😔

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  4. It’s so sad and at the same time so frustrating that violence against women is still rampant all around the world. Many women are scared to come out and talk about it especially because it involves a loved one. Great post Shweta! Loved the way you have listed a bunch of points as to what can be done against it!! 👍👍

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    1. Yes Shamira! That’s like a taboo and no one wanna talk about it… But till when? Someday the silence has to be broken!
      Thanks for the support dear :*

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      1. Yes fully agree Shweta. I hope people wake up and realize that this is NOT okay.

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  5. I second Shamira too!! What a point.. Yes.. Ppl stay shut because it’s a loved one!! 👍🏻👍🏻

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    1. Couldn’t agree more with Shamira! 👍

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      1. Ikr Hun??? Like would we spare a stranger if he/ she bashes up our car unintentionally?? We’d be on the warring mode..
        Yet we stay shut,when a loved one is bashing up our bodies and most importantly soul.. 😔😔

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      2. 😔 😔 😔

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    1. Thank you! 🙂

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  6. I have never understood people who take violence. I don’t know what it is or how they do that? Like you mentioned, is it the power, or the upbringing or whatever may be reasons be, violence is never the answer to anything, ever.
    It boils me up inside when I hear things like these.
    Yes, people should speak out, take a chance and fight for what’s right, their freedom.

    I hope all this changes and people, women would never have to live in fear.

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    1. That’s such a great thought! Thanks for sharing. Actually it just shook me from within when I heard about it!

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  7. Well spoken, Shweta. It pains me to see how domestic violence is treated as an unfortunate consequence of disharmony in relationships. It should treated for what it is – a severe crime that should lead to legal repercussions. I think women would speak out more if they were sure that the country would listen.

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    1. That’s so true! We need to know & need an assurance that we will be heard! Thanks for reading 🙂

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  8. Very powerful message, Shweta. Men sometimes misunderstand the whole point of “being a man”.

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    1. Absolutely! I’m glad you felt the message 🙂

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  9. This is such a powerful message u sent across this post. I stand by u 😊

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    1. I never expected so many comments and support on such sensitive issue! Your feedback is so encouraging Himali 🙂

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      1. I appreciate your courage to pen down Shweta.. Keep writing girl 🙂

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      2. ♥ 🙂

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      3. ❤❤💖💖💖💗💗💗💗💗

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  10. cheflauracerullo · · Reply

    Very well said! Sometimes expressing the softest emotions takes the greatest strength. A lovely read! I look forward to reading your musings on the blog again!

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    1. Thanks for your encouraging words! Means lot & thanks for visiting 🙂

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